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Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person, The Secret to Living Longer, Healthy Recipes
Mario Peshev
August 13, 2022
Estimated Reading Time: 2 mins
3 Ideas For Better Habits
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Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person
Philosopher Alain de Botton on why most people will not marry someone right for them(and how to make it work).
"Marriage ends up as a hopeful, generous, infinitely kind gamble taken by two people who don’t know yet who they are or who the other might be, binding themselves to a future they cannot conceive of and have carefully avoided investigating."
"But though we believe ourselves to be seeking happiness in marriage, it isn’t that simple. What we really seek is familiarity — which may well complicate any plans we might have had for happiness. We are looking to recreate, within our adult relationships, the feelings we knew so well in childhood...We marry the wrong people because we don’t associate being loved with feeling happy."
"[W]e marry to make a nice feeling permanent." But "marriage tends decisively to move us onto another, very different and more administrative plane, which perhaps unfolds in a suburban house, with a long commute and maddening children who kill the passion from which they emerged."
"The good news is that it doesn’t matter if we find we have married the wrong person...Romanticism has been unhelpful to us...It has made a lot of what we go through in marriage seem exceptional and appalling. We end up lonely and convinced that our union, with its imperfections, is not “normal.”
"We should learn to accommodate ourselves to “wrongness,” striving always to adopt a more forgiving, humorous and kindly perspective on its multiple examples in ourselves and in our partners."
Source: New York Times
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Eat Less to Live Longer
Biologist and aging expert, David Sinclair, Ph.D., on the biology of slowing and reversing aging.
“After 25 years of researching aging...if there is one piece of advice I can offer, one surefire way to stay healthy longer, one thing you can do to maximize your lifespan right now, it’s this: eat less.”
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Turn People Down Politely
Author Robert Greene on the danger of turning people down in an offence manner.
“Never assume that the person you are dealing with is weaker or less important than you are. Some people are slow to take offense, which may make you misjudge the thickness of their skin, and fail to worry about insulting them. But should you offend their honor and their pride, they will overwhelm you with a violence that seems sudden and extreme given their slowness to anger. If you want to turn people down, it is best to do so politely and respectfully, even if you feel their request is impudent or their offer ridiculous.”
Source: The 48 Laws of Power
Tools and Resources
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Tools to Boost Your Productivity and Build Better Habits
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Simple and Fast Recipe Search
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Brain Food
Have a productive week,
The Smarter Brain Team